HETEROSEXUAL OFFENDERS VS. ADULTS: HETEROSEXUAL PETTING
All our sample of heterosexual offenders vs. adults had petted before marriage. By age twelve a considerable proportion (46 per cent, third in rank-order) had petted; by age fourteen they are sixth; by age sixteen they are again sixth; but by age eighteen they are second with 95 per cent.
The median individual began petting shortly after his fifteenth birthday (as also did the median control-group individual), and in the span of time from puberty to just before the sixteenth birthday some 69 per cent had petted—a moderately high percentage. Between sixteen and twenty, 95 per cent (the fifth largest percentage among all groups) petted. The petting proclivity of the offenders vs. adults is best seen in the number of their partners (including coital partners): relatively few had only a small number; large numbers were the rule. The average offender had petted with 36 partners before marriage. In the category of over 100 partners the offenders vs. adults rank second with 29 per cent, surpassed only by the prison group. This “record,” so to speak, was foreshadowed by the unusually good social adjustment that the offenders vs. adults had between ages sixteen to seventeen with their female contemporaries in which they ranked fourth, 11 per cent above the control group.
The situation as described above does not seem mirrored in the frequency with which the offenders vs. adults reached orgasm in petting: whether median or mean is used, they ordinarily reveal neither a high nor low frequency, the median frequency among those who had orgasms being 3 to 4 a year. Their moderation in petting to orgasm is not the result of any restraint—it is simply the result of their going ahead and reaching their orgasms in coitus rather than in petting. Aside from the period of juvenile experimentation (where, it should be noted, the offenders vs. adults do rank third), and aside from some orgasms resulting from mouth-genital contact, petting to orgasm is chiefly a substitute for coitus. Such a substitute will naturally be employed more frequently by those who are somewhat sexually restrained or who for various reasons have difficulty in obtaining coitus. Those who are definitely restrained sexually avoid even petting to orgasm.
The age-specific incidence of petting to orgasm is moderate up to age twenty-five, a bit low (14 per cent) between twenty-six to thirty, and lowest of all (7 per cent) between thirty-one and thirty-five. In brief, these older males were strongly inclined to have either coitus or nothing in their sexual relationships with women.
Nearly all (96 per cent, the second highest percentage among the groups) included genital manipulation as a part of their petting, but, like the offenders vs. minors, they nevertheless were averse to mouth-genital contact. Eighty-eight per cent, the largest percentage among the comparative groups and one shared with the offenders vs. minors, never placed their mouths on female genitalia. Sixty-seven per cent, again the largest percentage, never had a female place her mouth on their genitalia. The minority who had experienced fellation had experienced it primarily with prostitutes, and very few of the ever-married males had been fellated by their wives. This is in keeping with the fact that males who desire some taboo sexual activity but who are, nevertheless, quite inhibited about it, seek it with prostitutes rather than with friends or wives.
The avoidance of mouth-genital contact is particularly interesting in that the offenders vs. adults also avoided another oral activity: nibbling or biting the sexual partner’s body. Such biting is commonplace in mammalian sexual behavior and among various human societies. Thirty-two per cent of the control group had engaged in biting. Nevertheless, 86 per cent of the offenders vs. adults had never so much as nibbled an ear lobe. This is the largest percentage of “nonbiters” in any group, and it is significant that the offenders vs. minors rank second with 79 per cent. In our culture biting is always construed as an aggressive act, and biting others is so taboo that even in barroom brawls it is regarded as being not quite ethical. Consequently, many individuals find it difficult to reconcile what they have always regarded as a hostile oral act with sexual activity between two people reasonably well-disposed toward one another.
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